New Year’s Opportunities


Now that the holidays have passed and 2013 is upon us, it’s a great time to think about what you want in your intimate and sexual life for this year. Along with using the mind to create pleasure, it’s also powerful to create intentions. I’m not talking about a To-Do list or putting pressure on yourself; rather, this is about letting yourself imagine what you’d like for yourself this year.

Here’s a ritual I do at the beginning of each year ~ I do this in many areas of my life, and for today, we’ll shine the light on matters of intimacy and sexuality ~

Take an hour or so, when you have some time to yourself. Make a cup of tea or some other drink you like and sit in a comfy chair with pen and paper. You can light a candle if you like, or play some soft background music. As you settle in, take some deep breaths and gently close your eyes. Relax and turn your awareness to your body and what brings you pleasure, specifically intimate pleasure… let your mind take you where it will and “see” what’s there. Perhaps it’s taking long baths with your sweetheart, or giving each other sensual massages, or looking into each other’s eyes and breathing as you feel you hearts and souls connect in the absence of words. Maybe you see you in some sexy lingerie dancing a sexy dance, being flirted with across the room at a party…. Whatever is there, let the visions and feelings come.

Open your eyes and jot down some notes about what brings you pleasure. More may come as you’re writing, so write it all down.

Then imagine that it’s December 31, 2013. What has this year brought to you in terms of intimacy and sexuality? What did you learn? How did you grow? Did you try some new things? Did you have fun?

Write yourself a letter dated 12/31/13. Write about what happened for you intimately and sexually during the year. Let your mind, heart and body take the lead  here and write as much as wants to come onto the paper.

Then put the letter away for safekeeping. Giving yourself this gift of time to dream and imagine is a great way to create a vision for what’s possible. Have fun with this and know that this is just for you.

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© 2012 by Barbara Musser, Sexy After Cancer.
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This blog does not reflect the opinions of The Pink Fund, its Founder, Board of Directors, Advisors or Volunteers. It is not meant to serve as medical advise of any kind. Any questions about your health and sexuality should be directed to a licensed physician or therapist. Any opinions expressed are solely those of the writer who voluntarily blogs for The Pink Fund without compensation.

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  1. Maria Lucas

     /  January 6, 2013

    You have inspired me! December 31 was my 2 Year “Survivor” anniversary- so I am going to back date my letter and write one tonight. I think I’ll open it next year…

    • Barbara,
      You have inspired me! December 31 was my 2 Year “Survivor” anniversary- so I am going to back date my letter and write one tonight. I think I’ll open it next year…


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