The Ultimate Expression of Loving You


Barbara Musser, sexy after cancer, love after breast cancer, self love after cancer

Now that it’s been a few weeks, how are you doing with your month of loving you? Did you accept the invitation? Are you having fun? What are you learning about loving you? My wish is that you love yourself and know that you are totally lovable.

In the spirit of you loving you and knowing that you are your permanent life partner, here’s a ceremony for you to perform to celebrate your love for you :

Using a full-length mirror, stand in front of the mirror, look into your eyes and say “I love you and I always will.” Please kneel on one knee, if you can do so without hurting yourself, and look into your eyes.  You are in this position for a very special reason.  You now have the opportunity to propose to yourself, to ask yourself to marry you, to spend all the rest of your life together, deeply committed to loving yourself.

Take a moment to look into the eyes of your beloved and say these words:

“As I grow deeper in love with you, I have come to know how truly magnificent you are.  I love the amazing qualities I see in you and I also love your human frailties. I celebrate your growth and want to be there for you in times of difficulty.  Will you marry me?”

After you accept, which I hope you do, you can stop kneeling so that you can sit comfortably, still making eye contact, now with your fiancee.

Let’s move forward in time to your Wedding Day.  If you’d like to dress up or have some flowers, please do. Stand in front of the mirror and look into your eyes.

Here you are at your own very special Wedding Ceremony looking into the eyes of your Beloved, and I have the privilege of performing this sacred ritual. Imagine me speaking these words:

Dearly Beloved,

We are gathered here to celebrate the sacred union of you with you.

Anyone who has just cause to believe this union should not take place, speak now or forever hold your peace.

Now repeat these words as you look into your eyes in the mirror:

I (say your name) promise to love, honor, respect, trust, and revere you all the days of my life; in sickness and in health; for richer and for poorer; in fear or in joy; accepting and loving what can often seem unacceptable or unlovable.  I hold this vow as a sacred purpose from this day forward.  I will always love you; I will never leave you.

By virtue of the powers invested in me by the Universe, I now pronounce you married.  You may now kiss your beloved.

Now the honeymoon begins, and my wish for you is that it lasts forever.

© 2014 by Barbara Musser, Sexy After Cancer.

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This blog does not reflect the opinions of The Pink Fund, its Founder, Board of Directors, Advisers or Volunteers. It is not meant to serve as medical advice of any kind. Any questions about your health and sexuality should be directed to a licensed physician or therapist. Any opinions expressed are solely those of the writer who voluntarily blogs for The Pink Fund without compensation.

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