Sacred Space for Your Inner Aphrodite

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Now that you’ve met your Inner Aphrodite, this is a good time to honor her and strengthen your connection with her by creating some sacred space dedicated to her and to the Inner Aphrodite in you.

Creating sacred space for yourself helps to make a greater circle around you to help you remember love and beauty during the day. What does it mean to create sacred space? If you think about how and where you spend your time, you’ll see what is sacred to you. Is it your workspace? Kitchen? TV room? Where you put your focus shows what you hold sacred. We live in a world currently that seems to value technology over many other things.

Do you have a special location where you can explore your feelings or meditate? Do you have a vision-for-thriving room? Would you like to devote some space to honoring love, beauty and sexuality by honoring Aphrodite? Sometimes all it takes is the choice to prioritize love and intimacy in order to create sacred space for it.

What are your thoughts when you read the words “sacred space?” How can you create this for you and then preserve it as you go about your day? Is it an actual physical space, or is it an attitude, a lens for viewing life? Are love and intimacy sacred to you? What does your connection with your Inner Aphrodite mean to you? It’s worth contemplating so that you can time and space for them if they are priorities.

How to do this? It can be as simple as you like. How can you create, preserve and consecrate your everyday space (physical, emotional, mental and spiritual space) so that it reflects your highest personal values as well as evoking the qualities that Aphrodite represents to you.

Molly MacDonald told me the other day that one of the most special aspects of the Dancing with Survivors event is that the dancers all felt beautiful, sexy and in the flow of the movement and music. Creating beauty and joy are ways to create sacred space.

We now know that our bodies are precious and sacred, as we make our way along the cancer journey. Do you honor yourself with what you take in ~ food, drink thoughts, environment and so on?

I have an altar in my bedroom devoted to Aphrodite, beauty, love and sexuality. I chose the colors to reflect love and passion, and asked my Inner Aphrodite what she wants on the altar. I have candles, crystals, a sculpture of a couple in an embrace, some sensual photos of myself and a box to contain my visions and dreams. There are also pearls, silk scarves and a bottle of my favorite personal lubricant. Each morning I sit facing my altar for my meditation and after the meditation, I bow as a sign of reverence to Aphrodite. I often ask her what she wants to express through me and wait for her guidance. It’s always intriguing, sensual and beautiful! It’s in the photo at the beginning of this blog

Let us know how you create sacred time and space ~ let us learn from and be inspired by your wisdom and experiences.

© 2012 by Barbara Musser, Sexy After Cancer.
For more resources, go to SexyAfterCancer.com

This blog does not reflect the opinions of The Pink Fund, its Founder, Board of Directors, Advisers or Volunteers. It is not meant to serve as medical advice of any kind. Any questions about your health and sexuality should be directed to a licensed physician or therapist. Any opinions expressed are solely those of the writer who voluntarily blogs for The Pink Fund without compensation.

Meeting Your Inner Aphrodite

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Birth of Venus

Many women on the breast cancer journey feel less attractive, desirable and sexy than they did before diagnosis. It’s completely understandable, given the impact of treatments. During treatment, we can feel like the vehicle that brought in the cancer to be treated as we are poked, prodded, cut and filled with medications and radiation. When simply getting through the days and treatments is the goal, feeling beautiful may not be high on your list of priorities.

After treatment, or when treatment is managed, we enter another phase; this is about integrating and getting on with life. It can feel like we’ve just been through a war. We are, indeed, warriors, to overcome or manage the disease. But what happened to feeling attractive and desirable? Your libido may have gone south, your energy may be low, or you may have chemo brain. There may be other factors at play as well.

What to do???

This is a good time to meet your Inner Aphrodite. Hmmm, who’s that? We all carry many archetypes inside us. An archetype is a model or pattern of a certain person or thing. We have the archetype of being a woman; a daughter; a friend; a mother, whether or not we have children, and many others. We also carry the archetype of Aphrodite inside.

Aphrodite, also known as Venus, is the goddess of beauty, love, pleasure and sexual rapture. She is often depicted nude, and there are many stories about her origin and life. She had many lovers and lived a sensual and beautiful life. The word “aphrodisiac” stems from Aphrodite ~ aphrodisiacs are foods, drinks or substances that stimulate sexual desire.

Here’s a meditation to discover your Inner Aphrodite. Read this and then close your eyes and try to lead yourself through it, knowing that you will do it perfectly for you and get just what you need.

Sit in a quiet place and let you muscles relax. Close your eyes and take some deep breaths as you draw your awareness inward. Imagine that you look down at the floor and on the floor, there’s a pair of sandals that are just your size. Imagine sitting up and putting on the sandals. Your inner guiding wisdom, your soul, puts on the sandals. As soon as you do, the walls of the room dissolve and you see where you are outside the walls. You take a step in the sandals. When you step, you’re staying in the same place and your step pulls you towards you, like a treadmill. The world propels you and as you pull the world toward you, it gets easier and you start to speed up. You have this amazing power in your legs to bring things towards you. You walk out of the city, out of the suburbs, out into the country, in the farms, beyond the dirt roads.

See what comes up around you until you find yourself in a forest of trees. Notice what kind of trees they are. Move among the trees and see the dappled light until the light grows dimmer as the canopy grows thicker. The trees get bigger and wider and older and you realize that, your whole life, these trees have been holding this space for you.

You come to a place where there’s a brook. You start to walk along the brook until you find the spring that is the source of the brook. Stop and take a sip of the cold, clear water coming from the spring. Then stand up and see a clearing near the spring. This is your Aphrodite place. Your whole life Aphrodite has been waiting here, held safe by the forest. You see places to sit or lie down ~ a nook in a tree, a stone at the edge of the clearing, some mossy spots.

You are drawn to the center of the clearing and stand in a ray of sunlight. As you stand in the light you realize that someone steps into the clearing with you. You realize this is your Inner Aphrodite, and that she has been with you all along. She says, “Yes, My Dear One, I have been with you all along.”

Look at Aphrodite and drink in her beauty. Notice her hair, eyes, the sound of her voice, her scent, what she is wearing. Ask her, “How can I know you? What can you teach me?” She answers, and you listen and drink in every bit of her message to you, the message with words and the message without words. It resonates in your heart and you know that this transmission about love, beauty, pleasure and sexual rapture will be inside you for the rest of your life. Aphrodite is here to heal you and you are here to be healed in just the ways you need.

Aphrodite embraces you and you feel her enter into your heart and the core of your being. She is always available to you and you need only ask. You know that you will ask her for guidance and wisdom whenever you need it.

You take a step. The world gets pulled around you and you pass through the forest, with Aphrodite inside you, and you walk faster and faster, through the farms and orchards and suburbs and city, until you’re back home. Let your soul sit down and click back into your body. Now it reaches down, pulls off first one sandal and then the other. Then you close your eyes, and when you open your eyes, the room is just as it was before. And now Aphrodite, and love, beauty, pleasure and sexual rapture are with you always.

Please share with us what you experience! May all the Aphrodites meet and honor one another!

© 2012 by Barbara Musser, Sexy After Cancer.

For more resources, go to SexyAfterCancer.com

This blog does not reflect the opinions of The Pink Fund, its Founder, Board of Directors, Advisers or Volunteers. It is not meant to serve as medical advice of any kind. Any questions about your health and sexuality should be directed to a licensed physician or therapist. Any opinions expressed are solely those of the writer who voluntarily blogs for The Pink Fund without compensation.

The Miracle of Touch

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Research shows that human babies can perish if they are deprived of touch. The nourishment of human contact is a critical element for an infant to thrive. If touch is inadequate or unkind the baby will develop all sorts of problems ranging from poor psychological health to self-harming behaviors. As we mature into adults touch remains just as integral to our health and survival as it was when we were born.

The miraculous healing power of touch cannot be underestimated. Who we are and what we do touches people’s lives, sometimes quite literally as molecules are shared and exchanged in every interaction. It’s not just about the physical sensation, but also about the intentions behind the actions. Intention matters. If our thoughts are loving and generous, we have loving touch. Our loving motives transmit to the other person and affect them emotional and spiritually as well as physically, and all of this invigorates all the senses and activates the nervous system.

Sensual touch and sexual touch are the ultimate forms of human touch because they reach the deepest parts of us and can bring great intimacy and healing. This is why sex is such a singular experience. Relationships need loving touch to survive so that they don’t wither away into emotional or sexual anorexia. Here’s the challenge: you cannot force unity or make it right or fix it with only your thoughts. That can feel mechanical and like simply going through the motions, which can feel hollow.

If you and your partner want to train yourselves to consciously touch each other, consider simple acts like holding hands, hugging or giving and receiving massages to induce biochemical and psychological connection. With regular time for touch and the intention to be intimate, we can become channels of life and love through the miracle of touch.

It’s also important to touch yourself as you want to be touched. Whenever you yearn for touch or feel lonely, let your own fingers channel the healing energy of life that you’ve been given into your own amazing body. Give the touch you desire and become your own best lover!

© 2012 by Barbara Musser, Sexy After Cancer.

For more resources, go to SexyAfterCancer.com

This blog does not reflect the opinions of The Pink Fund, its Founder, Board of Directors, Advisers or Volunteers. It is not meant to serve as medical advice of any kind. Any questions about your health and sexuality should be directed to a licensed physician or therapist. Any opinions expressed are solely those of the writer who voluntarily blogs for The Pink Fund without compensation.

Cancer and Sexuality Inservice for Oncology Staff

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Yesterday I taught an inservice class about cancer and sexuality for the oncology staff at a local hospital. There were 15 participants, including 2 nurses who have also recently been breast cancer patients. In talking about what happens anatomically, medically, psychologically and spiritually during and after breast cancer treatments, it quickly became obvious that more health care providers can benefit from this information. If you think so, please introduce me to your health care providers so that I can be a resource to them. The staff also received CEU’s for this session, so it was a win-win.

Here are some of the key points that came out of the session:

  • women want to know early in their treatment that there may be intimacy and sexuality changes and challenges
  • women want information and tools to help in these areas
  • during treatment, sex may be the last thing on their minds, but they want to know how to be intimate and loving and they want their partners to know how to do this
  • information about intimacy and sexuality is best given throughout treatment because chemo brain may get in the way of absorbing it
  • caregivers need resources to offer patients if they don’t have the information or time to devote to this
  • having information about intimacy and sexuality goes a long way to having patients feel like a whole human being instead of being the disease

Every member of the oncology staff said they are happy to talk about intimacy and sexuality and may not think to ask about it when they are busy taking vitals, getting meds ready, and bringing water and supplies to patients. They welcome questions, even if they may not have an answer, because they will find resources.

With the new emphasis on long term care planning, including quality of life aspects, intimacy and sexuality are key issues. Navigating the transitions from being lovers to being patient and caregiver, back to being lovers, can be challenging. Having tools, ideas and resources to do this is essential.

What do you think? What resources do you need and where do you want to get them? Please reply to this post or message me directly (barbara@sexyaftercancer.com) with your thoughts. Thanks! Here’s to your beauty, radiance and intimacy!

© 2012 by Barbara Musser, Sexy After Cancer.

For more resources, go to SexyAfterCancer.com

This blog does not reflect the opinions of The Pink Fund, its Founder, Board of Directors, Advisers or Volunteers. It is not meant to serve as medical advice of any kind. Any questions about your health and sexuality should be directed to a licensed physician or therapist. Any opinions expressed are solely those of the writer who voluntarily blogs for The Pink Fund without compensation.

Is This You??

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Last week we started a new 6-week session of Rekindling Intimacy and Desire on the Breast Cancer Journey for couples. We sat in a circle and each person shared a bit about their journey and what they want to learn in the classes. Here’s some of what they said ~ does any of this ring true for you?

  • I want to recapture physical pleasure
  • My desire for sex is down and I want intimacy, sensuality and sexuality to go up
  • I want the colors back in my life instead of black, white and gray
  • My partner is unhappy and I want to change that
  • I have many side effects including vaginal dryness
  • Losing my fertility is yet another unexpected loss
  • I want to get back what cancer and the meds took away
  • My vagina is thinner and dryer
  • I want to learn about what I don’t know
  • This is my life force energy and I want it to be strong
  • I don’t feel like a woman these days and don’t know what to do

The intimacy and honesty in the group was breathtaking. We laughed, cried, shared stories and ideas, and as the evening went on, it began to feel very different in the room. Facial tension relaxed, we saw more emotions, the questions got deeper, and new ways to experience intimacy evolved.

Here’s one of the activities we did:

Sit facing your partner, close enough so you can hold hands, and look into each other’s eyes while taking a few deep breaths to establish a connection. Then each person complete this sentence:  “I feel loved when…”. One person keeps completing the sentence for a few minutes while the other listens without responding. Then switch so the other can complete the sentence while your sweetheart listens.  When you have both had a turn, each person jot down a few notes as a reminder for ways to be loving in ways that have their partner feel loved. Take this as an assignment to do at least one loving thing each day for your partner, and share more ways you feel loved as you become aware of them.

The next day I received an email from one of the participants. She said that in 45 years of marriage she has rarely seen emotion in her husband. He shed a few tears and they shared some tender hugs throughout the evening. She was grateful for the depth they shared and the openings to intimacy.

If it feels right to you, share this little exercise with your sweetheart. Create a context of love, kindness and curiosity and see what happens. And let us know.

 

© 2012 by Barbara Musser, Sexy After Cancer.

For more resources, go to SexyAfterCancer.com

This blog does not reflect the opinions of The Pink Fund, its Founder, Board of Directors, Advisers or Volunteers. It is not meant to serve as medical advice of any kind. Any questions about your health and sexuality should be directed to a licensed physician or therapist. Any opinions expressed are solely those of the writer who voluntarily blogs for The Pink Fund without compensation.

Memories and Brain Plasticity

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The past two weeks have been flooded with memories of my relationship with my mother ~ mine and those of many friends and family members as I reach out to spread the news that she has died. She was known and loved by many people and touched people in ways I didn’t know.

In talking about shared experiences, it has surprised me more than once that we were talking about the same event and the same people. We all experience life through our unique filters; hence the adage that we create our own reality. It’s our thoughts and beliefs that shape out experiences, and I read recently that what we really have is memories of memories.

I’ve also read a bit about the plasticity of our brains. We can not only rewrite “history”, which may be better termed “mystery”, but we can also shape how we think about things. This is interesting to me, especially as it relates to cancer experiences.

Over the decades since my diagnosis, my experience of my cancer has shifted and evolved. First there was the shock and fear; then the fear of recurrence, followed by knowing that I chose to live and to live fully; then some of the gifts of the experience; to now knowing that my experiences have led me to my life’s work.

Ernest Holmes, the founder of Science of Mind, says:

“Just imagine yourself surrounded by Mind, so plastic, so receptive, that it receives the slightest impression of your thought. Whatever you think, it takes up and executes for you. Every thought is received and acted upon. Not some, but all thoughts. Whatever the pattern we provide, that will be our demonstration…

In the center of your own soul, choose what you want to become, to accomplish; keep it to yourself. Every day, in the silence of absolute conviction, know that it is now done. It is just as much done, as far as you are concerned, as it will be when you experience it in the outer. Imagine yourself to be what you want to be. See only that which you desire; refuse even to think of the other. Stick to it, never doubt. Say many times a day, “I am that thing.” Realize what this means. It means that the great Universal power of Mind is that, and it cannot fail.”

This is the key to kingdom of health on all levels. Use your mind to create the reality and experiences that you wish to have. Wow! Really? Yes, really! If you knew this was possible, how would you create your life? How would you frame your cancer experiences? What would you think about yourself as a woman?  What would you know without doubt?

I’d love it if you would share about this so that we can all inspire one another on our journeys.

© 2012 by Barbara Musser, Sexy After Cancer.

For more resources, go to SexyAfterCancer.com

This blog does not reflect the opinions of The Pink Fund, its Founder, Board of Directors, Advisers or Volunteers. It is not meant to serve as medical advice of any kind. Any questions about your health and sexuality should be directed to a licensed physician or therapist. Any opinions expressed are solely those of the writer who voluntarily blogs for The Pink Fund without compensation.

Heart on Fire

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My mother died this week after a sudden grave illness. It all happened very suddenly. Unlike with cancer, we didn’t have the luxury of time to complete things. There were things left unsaid, hurts unhealed, love unexpressed. The past few years, as she aged and declined physically and mentally, were challenging. As I reflect on her life and our relationship, I’m aware of how complex our relationships with our mothers and daughters. And I’m aware of the fragility and uncertainty of life. We never really know what’s next.

My mother taught me many things ~ how to stand up for myself; how to dream big dreams and not let anything stop me. She taught me perseverance and going the distance. She left many wounds as well ~ not honoring myself as a woman; and loving with conditions. She taught me very little about being a woman or intimacy and sexuality. She grew up in another generation where such things were not discussed and it was shameful.

I think these early messages are a big part of why I became a sex educator, so I can thank my mother for that.

I taught my mother a few things as well ~ how to apologize for mistakes; how to love her body; how to masturbate. WHAT?!? How did that happen? I don’t remember how we got on the subject of self-pleasure, but I asked her if she did and she said she didn’t know what I was talking about. I happened to be visiting and I always travel with my favorite vibrator, so I told her about it.

We went into her bedroom with the vibrator and I showed her how I use it. She was squirmy and beat red, and also fascinated. I asked her if she wanted to try it and it was hard for her to say yes. So I left it on her bed and left the room.

Downstairs I made a cup of tea and settled in with a book. About an hour later, Mom came downstairs with a crooked smile on her face, looking quite happy and relaxed. “Well???” I said, “Did you have some fun?” She gave a hint of a nod and made herself a drink.

I left the vibrator in her bathroom with a note that it was my gift to her. The next morning I found it in my suitcase. We never talked about it.

One of the things I loved about my mother is that she was an adventurer. She tried lots of things, took risks and I learned that from her. Living life full-on is a gift we can give ourselves every day.

I have taught my daughter to be an adventurer, by example and by encouraging her to follow her dreams and passions. I also have taught her to love her body and how to experience many kinds of physical pleasure, including self pleasuring and masturbation. She has already thanked me for that!

This gift from my mother is her legacy. My heart is one fire with gratitude and sadness and love.

What is your legacy?

© 2012 by Barbara Musser, Sexy After Cancer.

For more resources, go to SexyAfterCancer.com

This blog does not reflect the opinions of The Pink Fund, its Founder, Board of Directors, Advisers or Volunteers. It is not meant to serve as medical advice of any kind. Any questions about your health and sexuality should be directed to a licensed physician or therapist. Any opinions expressed are solely those of the writer who voluntarily blogs for The Pink Fund without compensation.

NWSC Report and Lube Recommendations

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The National Women’s Survivors Convention launched their first event in Nashville August 22-24. More than 750 women from around the world with all types of cancer in their story, gathered. The event was extraordinary! Lots of great women, sponsors, entertainers, information and so much more.

I was on a panel about cancer and sexuality with Sandy Finestone, who is also a long-time breast cancer sur-thriver. She presented a clear clinical picture of what happens in a woman’s body with cancer treatments. I got to talk about what to do about that and gave lots of tips and tools. That was fun. Sandy and I had dinner together after the panel and cooked up the idea to do a research study to test my protocol with a group of women around the country.

Since many of you have been reading this Sexy Saturdays blog for nearly a year, you are familiar with my beliefs and approach. So I though you might be interested in being part of this study. If that interests you, please let me know! You can be a part of the solution to a challenging issue for lots of women.

One question that came up during our panel was about what personal lubricants work best. Here are a few that I can recommend, and I suggest that you see if you can get some samples locally before you buy a big container. Choosing a personal lubricant is a very personal choice so it’s important to find what you like.

  • Liquid Silk, non-tacky water-based sensual lubricant. This one is personally endorsed by Molly MacDonald!
  • Sliquid Organics Botanically infused natural intimate lubricant is my personal favorite. This product is also water-based and vegan-friendly.
  • Good Clean Love Almost Naked personal lubricant, created by my friend Wendy Strgar.

There are many lubricants available and it’s important to find one/s that smell, taste and feel good to you. The ones listed here are all water-based and can be used as moisturizing lubricants, which is an important aspect to sensual pleasure. We want to increase the moisture content of our vulvar and genital tissue to help reduce friction and small tears that can happen easily when the tissue is dry. Many cancer treatments suppress hormone production and one result of this is loss of moisture and elasticity of the tissue in the genital area ~ ouch!

Feel free to use moisturizing lubricants like you would use a facial moisturizer: apply liberally twice a day and massage it into the tissue.  Moisturizing and massaging daily really helps to get the blood and lymph flowing, which also helps to hydrate the tissue.  I encourage you to try this daily routine and then share your results with me! Happy moisturizing!

© 2012 by Barbara Musser, Sexy After Cancer.

For more resources, go to SexyAfterCancer.com

This blog does not reflect the opinions of The Pink Fund, its Founder, Board of Directors, Advisers or Volunteers. It is not meant to serve as medical advice of any kind. Any questions about your health and sexuality should be directed to a licensed physician or therapist. Any opinions expressed are solely those of the writer who voluntarily blogs for The Pink Fund without compensation.

Leap of Faith

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Sometimes cancer robs us of our faith, and we can slip into fear and distrust. If this has occurred for you, it’s time to take a leap of faith and assume that you will be guided to know what you need at the right time and in the right way. Your past disappointments don’t lead to doom and disaster if you let go of resentment and fear. The only way we can synthesize past experience is to take healthy action with an open heart and with the knowledge and belief that what we need will be shown to us. Life is an invitation, and a leap of faith invites the right actions and experiences for us.

This applies to our faith in our body and sexuality as well. No matter what has happened, you are here now and trusting yourself and your faith can lead you to actions that will give you what you want, regardless of the results your are getting now. Faith requires letting go of impatience and instead, participating fully. Ask for guidance in it will come. You can transform your perception of fear into love, through action, and then miracles come.

Even if you can’t see it clearly, it is possible to experience a wonderful intimate and sexual life. It requires a vision for what that might be coupled with taking action. Just thinking about it won’t change anything. If you want more intimacy, what is one step you can take today in that direction? It can be a baby step; the important thing is to take a step. Take a moment to close your eyes and ask what step to take. Wait until you have a thought, feeling or knowing what it is. Then take that step with the faith that it will lead you to the next step.

As you begin to ask for guidance and take action, keep some notes in your journal of the steps you are taking, how you feel as you take them, how they lead to the next step and so on. Soon you will realize that you are taking leaps of faith that move you closer to your heart’s desires and into pleasure.

Let us know what leaps you are taking and where they lead you!

© 2012 by Barbara Musser, Sexy After Cancer.

For more resources, go to SexyAfterCancer.com

This blog does not reflect the opinions of The Pink Fund, its Founder, Board of Directors, Advisers or Volunteers. It is not meant to serve as medical advice of any kind. Any questions about your health and sexuality should be directed to a licensed physician or therapist. Any opinions expressed are solely those of the writer who voluntarily blogs for The Pink Fund without compensation.

Free Yourself from Sexual Shame

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John Bradshaw, author of Healing The Shame That Binds You, says, “The dynamic core of your human life is grounded in your feelings, needs and drives. When these are bound by shame, you are shamed to the core.”  Many of us have been shamed socially and also by how we were raised. We internalize shame and it embeds in our nervous system, we feel it in our gut. It’s one of the earliest emotions children display ~ the lowered head, downcast eyes, tingling red face.

Social shaming helps to ensure expected behaviors and helps us to see our errors and self-correct. For example, we can laugh and remedy the situation of rushing to cross the street before the “walk” light illuminates by stepping back to the curb and waiting before we rush into the street.

Most of us have been shamed about our bodies and sexuality from an early age. We’ve all heard messages like “Good girls save themselves until they’re married to have sex”, “Showing so much cleavage makes you look cheap”, “You’re too fat, too thin, too tall, too short” or “That heavy and dark eyeliner looks like you’re inviting a seduction” and so on. Take a moment and think about the messages you heard, the ones that still run in your head. These are the messages that become our negative self-talk. This is so pervasive that nearly every woman has low self-esteem and a less than loving view of her body and sexuality. You need only look at all the products and services that are sold to make us more presentable and lovable to see this.

When breast cancer comes into the picture and our breasts are altered or removed, more shame can get triggered. Of course we’re happy to be alive even if our body is changed. And yet, this toll on self-love and sexual self-esteem is big. If you’ve ever had a thought that you are “damaged goods”, this is shame at work and it’s toxic. It’s important to know that toxic shame is the natural result of our mental programming and messages we received from our families, teachers, bullies and even the media. Because this shame results from our programming, we don’t have to be ashamed of this shame, because it’s not ours. It was imposed on us long ago.

The truth is that you have a natural grace and reason for existing and loving yourself and feeling loved. When you look beyond the curtain of shame, then you can see the truth of your own beauty and desirability. Beauty comes from the inside out and has a radiance to it that makes you glow.

The way to free yourself from any shame is to feel your shame. As you feel it, know that you have a right to be, that you were meant to be here, and that there is no need to apologize for who you are. As you do this, the clarity will come about who you really are and you can begin to discover your visions for who you are as a woman, a sexual being who deserves to love and be loved. It all begins with this inside work.

This weekend I am at the National Women’s Survivors Convention in Nashville. I will report on it very soon ~ imagine 750 women with cancer in their story, gathered to live, laugh and evolve. Stay tuned for details!

© 2012 by Barbara Musser, Sexy After Cancer.
For more resources, go to SexyAfterCancer.com

This blog does not reflect the opinions of The Pink Fund, its Founder, Board of Directors, Advisers or Volunteers. It is not meant to serve as medical advice of any kind. Any questions about your health and sexuality should be directed to a licensed physician or therapist. Any opinions expressed are solely those of the writer who voluntarily blogs for The Pink Fund without compensation.

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